How to Choose the Right Nanny: A Calm, Confident Guide for Families in Hertfordshire & London
- Jill@TheNannyCollective
- Mar 24
- 2 min read
Updated: Mar 25
How to Choose the Right Nanny for Your Family
Hiring a nanny is one of the most important decisions a parent can make — you’re not just choosing a childcare provider, you’re welcoming someone into your family’s everyday life. Whether you’re looking for full-time support, after-school help, or flexible cover, here’s what you need to know when choosing the right nanny for your family.
1. Be Clear on Your Needs
Start by outlining what you really need.
• How many days and hours?
• Live-in or live-out?
• Will they need to drive? Cook? Support with homework?
The clearer you are, the easier it will be to match with someone who fits your lifestyle.
2. Look for the Right Personality Fit
Qualifications and experience matter — but so does energy, approach, and warmth. Ask yourself:
• Will this person feel like a calm, trusted presence in my home?
• Would my children feel safe, engaged, and cared for around them?
It’s not just about the CV — it’s about connection.
3. Ask the Right Questions
During interviews, go beyond the basics. Ask open-ended questions like:
• “How would you handle a child refusing to nap?”
• “What does a typical day with you look like?”
• “How do you approach discipline?”
Listen closely to their tone, confidence, and how well their answers match your values.
4. Check DBS and References
Always make sure your nanny has an up-to-date Enhanced DBS check and strong references from previous families. At The Nanny Collective, we verify all documents before a nanny is put forward — so you can feel confident from day one.
5. Do a Trial Before You Commit
A short paid trial (or “play date”) is a great way to see how your child and nanny connect. It allows both sides to test the dynamic before moving into a longer-term arrangement.
6. Work with a Trusted Agency
Partnering with a nanny agency can save you time, stress, and sleepless nights. At The Nanny Collective, we personally match each family with handpicked, professional nannies based on your specific needs. No random profiles, no endless scrolling — just a calm, confident process from start to finish.
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